WATCHING OUR Kids
Submitted by Bruce Lundeby
Our daughter was a cheerleader in high school. We went to nearly all of the local games, but none of the away games. We were the parents sitting quietly on the very top row of the bleachers. It’s more comfortable to have the wall as a backrest.
During her junior year, our daughter told us it was embarrassing that we came to every game. Out of respect to her, we stopped going to most of the home games. One of her teammates asked her why we had stopped coming to the games. When our daughter explained, her teammate asked why in the world would she wanted her parents to stay away. Our daughter learned that this girl’s father had never ever seen her cheer.
We were invited by our daughter to attend her games again. The teammate noticed right away and told us “it’s great to see you again”. All I could hear was “my dad never comes to see me”.
I don’t know what percentage of events is the right number to attend. I do know it does not need to be 100% and really should not be. Maybe even 50% is more than is required. I do know that never is not enough.
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Bruce Lundeby is a father, husband and Software Development Program Manager.
COMMENT on this story
8/23/2017 09:04:15 pm
Excellent question. I don't think there is a good answer except for never is not enough and always is too much. We strained to find the balance and never felt we achieved it. (By the way, it is now OK to end a sentence with a preposition). We still strive for that balance.
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