Submitted by Bonnie E.
We’re a military family. My husband was assigned overseas a few months ago, and after we arrived I started a job search. One of the big hiring bodies on these bases is AAFES; they hire retail and food service workers at the various base facilities. The only job postings I was finding were AAFES jobs which were hourly shift-work positions. With a master’s degree and experience working in higher education for several years, I wasn’t thrilled at the prospect of running a cash register. But I also wasn't content to opt out of the workforce for four years.
When I mentioned the dilemma to my husband he was really clear about his feelings and advised that I shouldn't work for AAFES. He'd heard that the employees aren't treated real well and told me, "You'd be so much better off to keep looking for something in your field."
And he was right. Sure enough, I have found a higher ed job here. It pays well, my team is respectful and supportive, and there’s room for advancement. If I’d taken the obvious job in retail, I wouldn’t be on the path I’m on continuing my career with opportunities to increase my earnings.
My husband doesn’t have a lot to gain from me working more; it means more housework, errands, and dog walking for him. He earns enough to support us, but he’s just that confident in my abilities, and he wants me to feel like a success. So he pushes me to keep striving for more when I feel like giving up and taking the "easy" way out. (Well the work probably wouldn't have been easier, but it was arguably less responsibility and less pressure.)
Here’s to great husbands!